Education can be full of unknowns, especially for families living in a different country. Looking back, parents who are new to the education system in England notice many things about which they say, “I wish I'd known this earlier.” Here are real “I wish” moments from parents, and the important lessons to take from them!
“I Wish” Moments About the Education System and Choosing a School
- “I wish I'd researched the education system better before coming to England.”
- “I wish I'd analysed my child's academic strengths better and prepared them for grammar school tests accordingly.”
- “I wish I'd learned how the school's system works earlier, rather than from my child.”
- “I wish I'd understood the difference between Outstanding and Good schools better.”
- “I wish I'd known in advance that the school's facilities aren't offered equally to every class.”
“I Wish” Moments About Exams and Academic Preparation
- “I wish I'd started 11+ preparation earlier and in a more planned way.”
- “I wish I'd started looking for an 11+ tutor in Year 4.”
- “I wish I'd kept a closer eye on my child's progress and realised sooner that they needed tutoring.”
- “I wish I'd made a long-term plan instead of squeezing exam preparation into the final year.”
- “I wish I hadn't relied only on my child's school results and had also worked on exam technique.”
“I Wish” Moments About Moving Country and Settling In
- “I wish we'd moved to England before Year 4.”
- “I wish we'd chosen a good school and address before moving, and managed the process more thoughtfully.”
- “I wish I hadn't worried so much about my child's English in the first year, because they adapted quickly.”
- “I wish we'd moved earlier to make the move to secondary school easier.”
“I Wish” Moments About Communicating with Teachers and the School
- “I wish I'd kept in closer touch with teachers and followed my child's progress better.”
- “I wish I'd known the school's assessment system in advance and asked teachers for more information.”
- “I wish I'd looked more critically at the school's feedback on my child's progress and stepped in earlier.”
- “I wish teachers had been more open about my child's weaknesses and given realistic suggestions.”
“I Wish” Moments About Social and Personal Development
- “I wish I'd encouraged my child into more activities for their social development.”
- “I wish I'd started my child in sport and music at a younger age.”
- “I wish we'd paid more attention to my child's friendship group and moved to a more suitable area.”
- “I wish I'd organised more social activities to support my child's development outside school too.”
“I Wish” Moments About the Curriculum and Resources
- “I wish I'd known earlier which extra resources to use.”
- “I wish I'd known which books to follow for spelling and maths.”
- “I wish I'd followed each year's curriculum more closely and supported my child more knowingly.”
- “I wish we'd better understood how GCSE and A Level choices affect university before deciding.”
- “I wish I'd found out earlier which online learning platforms are useful.”
Advice for Parents: How Can You Avoid Saying “I Wish”?
These real “I wish” moments hold important lessons for many parents. So what can you do to avoid these regrets?
- Research the education system in advance and set out a roadmap that suits your child's academic strengths.
- Keep in close contact with teachers and follow your child's progress closely.
- Plan exam preparation early and support it with the right resources.
- Keep a balance between social and academic life, guiding your child not only in their studies but in social skills too.
- Find out early about GCSEs, A Levels and the university admissions process.
- Manage the process proactively so you don't miss key turning points in your child's education.
Remember, every parent's experience is different, but there's a lot in common. Share your experiences to guide other parents! 😊
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